Is the life you're leading true to you? Do you feel like you're endlessly striving in a world that never stops asking for more? Too often, we exhaust ourselves in pursuit of supposed ideals. We give everything in search of 'success,' while struggling with stress, guilt, self-doubt, and burnout. It's time to dismantle the illusion of external validation. It's time to embrace your inherent worth as a woman and a leader. Lead Like You is a roadmap for rediscovering the authentic you and realising a new way to live and lead. The key to true transformation, radical resilience, and deep fulfilment lies within: learning to know yourself, care for yourself and truly be yourself, at work and in life. Lead Like You will show you how to ignite this personal and professional revolution. Through courageous stories, evidence-based practices and insights from psychology, author Jo Wagstaff shares indispensable tools for forging a profound connection with -- and caring for -- the self. Learn how you can lead your career and lead yourself with more purpose and power. Understand and overcome the external and internal forces that limit your potential Increase your self-awareness and identify your motivations, limiting behaviours and boundaries Discover the strength and power in mindfulness, self-care and self-compassion Learn how to forge authentic connections and healthier, more meaningful relationships Access and leverage the advantages of authentic leadership to make a difference within your organisation and the world Lead Like You shares the tools and knowledge you need to feel calm, confident, and empowered as a female leader. You'll discover how to find power in vulnerability and return to your true values and purpose. This book will inspire you to do the inner work and redefine your vision for success -- so you can live and lead true to yourself.
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Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Contents
Preface
Introduction
Part I Know yourself
Chapter 1 Why is it so hard to live true to ourselves?
How our histories shape us
It starts at the beginning
Then everything changed again
The challenges of instability
Learning to 'earn' my worth
How trauma shapes us
But my childhood was normal
We are not meant to do it alone
Chapter 2 Learning to get our needs met
Why are we working so hard?
Three unconscious strategies for getting our needs met
Leadership Circle framework
Complying tendency: Moving toward
Controlling tendency: Moving against
When we are over-activated in our controlling tendency
Protecting tendency: Moving away
The root of all three tendencies
Awareness. Acceptance. Action. Afterburn.
Awareness
Acceptance
Action
Watch out for the afterburn!
Chapter 3 Learning to dance in relationships
Learning to dance
'Good enough' parenting
Dancing blindly
How do you dance?
1. Secure attachment: The rock of reliability
2. Insecure ambivalent/anxious preoccupied: The yearning for connection
3. Insecure avoidant/dismissive avoidant: The island of independence
4. Disorganised/fearful avoidant: The pendulum of confusion
Resolve your trauma to heal your attachment style
Attachment in the workplace
1. Anxiously attached in the workplace
2. Avoidantly attached in the workplace
3. Securely attached in the workplace
Hold your heart gently
Chapter 4 The many forces that hinder our authenticity
Our brain is wired for survival
Our internal threat, drive and soothing systems
Our threat system
Our drive system
Our soothing system
Dependency and interdependency
Adult stages of development
Stage 3: Socialised mind
Stage 4: Self-authoring mind.
Stage 5: Self-transforming mind
Our core beliefs colour how we see the world
Getting stuck in identity and our narrative
Who am I without my identity?
The gift and challenge of being a mum
Perimenopause and menopause
The reality of a patriarchal, white-privileged and outwardly focused society
#metoo
Workplace gender bias
Moving forward
Good enough
Changing our template
Part II Care for yourself
Chapter 5 The challenge and gift of being our own best friend
Becoming our own best friend with self-compassion
Learning to love myself
But isn't it just self-indulgence?
How shame cripples us
Why do we resist self-compassion?
Replace the inner critic with the inner coach
Chapter 6 Finding our boundaries
The need for compassionate boundaries
Get clear on your priorities
Chapter 7 Tuning into our needs
Tuning into your unmet needs
Metta meditation
Tend and befriend
Self-care is about valuing and respecting ourselves
1. Not every self-care activity feels good
2. Self-care isn't a one-time thing
Prioritising self-care
Chapter 8 Getting practical with self-care
Gut health, stress and burnout
Hustling to prove my worth
Managing gut health with lifestyle choices
Essential practices
Start slowly
Ten wellbeing practices
1. Consistent sleep for at least seven to eight hours each night
2. Regular exercise and physical movement
3. Nutrition
4. Meditation
5. Reflective journaling
6. Write a gratitude list
7. Digital detox
8. Stop, rest, relax and nourish your soul
9. Daily self-compassion practice
10. Human connection
Create daily rituals
Chapter 9 Financial self-care
Confronting my financial demons
Learning to respect and value ourselves
Exploring our beliefs and assumptions about money
Valuing ourselves at work.
Three financial self-care practices
1. Live within your means and do not burden your future self
2. Provide your future self with a financial cushion
3. Financial hygiene checklist
Part III Be yourself
Chapter 10 Finding our authentic selves
What is authenticity and how do we become truly authentic?
1. Self-awareness and personal growth
2. Embracing our individuality
3. Overcoming stereotypes and biases
4. Building genuine connections
5. Honesty and transparency
6. Balancing vulnerability and strength
Chapter 11 Finding our authentic values and purpose
A reflection for discovering your core values
Who do you admire?
Purpose makes our lives meaningful
Seven steps for discovering your purpose
Step 1: List ten things you want most out of your life
Step 2: List ten things that you most want to see happen on the planet
Step 3: List ten characteristics/traits that best describe you
Step 4: List ten skills or abilities that you can do and love to do now
Step 5: Identify your top priority from each group
Step 6: Write a first draft of a personal mission statement
Step 7: Rewrite, finesse and share
Forget the grandiose purpose
Chapter 12 Translating our values and purpose into vision
Create your life vision
Stage 1: Your life vision
Stage 2: Your career and leadership vision
Ignite new possibilities
Chapter 13 Being ourselves in relationships
Why are relationships so difficult?
The past is intimately connected with the present
The five core human needs
Transference
Transference in the workplace
The shadow mirror of our triggers
Chapter 14 The art of being both soft and strong
Five practices for cultivating the art of soft and strong
1. Deep listening
2. Emotional intelligence
3. Courage
4. Giving and receiving constructive feedback.
5. Conflict resolution
Chapter 15 Redefining success
The quality of our future lives depends on the choices we make now
Slowing down and shifting from burnout to balance
Comparison kills our innate confidence and sense of success
Cultivating satisfaction and joy is an inside job
Grace, faith and letting go
The gift of prayer
Chapter 16 Leading trueto ourselves
Embodied leadership presence
Support your nervous system to stand in your power
The feminine leadership advantage
A final reflection
Acknowledgements
Resources
References
EULA.
ISBN
9781394248735 ((electronic bk.))
OCLC
1424751534
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